What I look for in a Sexual/Sensual Partner
This is what’s important to me (besides looks of course) is:
- that they’re very intelligent. I find it really tough to bond with someone without sharing some kind of interests, values, or views on the world
- • confident: huge for me. Someone who’s very sure of themselves, their sexuality, sensuality, boundaries. It’s really tough to work with someone who is insecure about themselves
- • driven and fit: I absolutely am attracted to athletic builds physically. But more importantly it matters that they really take care of themselves to work towards their goals
- • open minded and adventurous: super important to me. I think sexuality is all about creativity and asking what if. You can get a good sense of what I like by taking a look at my medium. I write quite a lot on this topic. But here’s a mega list of stuff I’m into to give you an idea of how I think https://tolicodes.medium.com/sex-ideas-63cbefef78c1
- • expert in anatomy: I have a super stressful job. And have kinks all over. I sit at a desk all day. And it’s extremely important that she understands how the body works and where to press to reveal stress.
- • great communicator, low ego: I can be kind of demanding sometimes, and very specific about what I like and don’t like. Some people take offense to it. I’m very open to constructive criticism and prefer to only associate with ppl who do the same
In terms of body, I prefer:
- athletic build
- • under 5'6"
- • “healthy”: not a fan of makeup or fancy clothes. Basically someone who really eats healthy, works out, and naturally takes care of their bodies
A bit about me:
I’m an engineer working in the NFT space. 29yo male.
This site is a bit old hahah but the video very much gives a gist of my personality.
https://tolicodes.com/
And of course my medium is probably the best way to get to know me.
This article is a great representation of my views on sensuality, sexuality, and love:
https://tolicodes.medium.com/getting-back-to-love-2942d026882b
This explains a bit of my approach towards life:
https://tolicodes.medium.com/why-we-focus-on-the-negative-and-how-its-keeping-us-from-happiness-da2224de0899
This one is very much a WIP but is probably the best explanation of what I am that I’ve published to date
https://tolicodes.medium.com/facing-the-truth-d0328435c16
It’s extremely important to me that there is an understanding of who I am when working in this space.
